I would have loved to be telling you that Oliver’s feeding issues are now resolved. In fact, I was actually putting off writing this until I could. However, I want to tell my story regardless, because I want any other mother struggling with feeding in any way to know that she is not alone. I want to reassure her that feeding does not define her bond with her baby or her worth as a mother.
During the painful, emotional blur of the first few days and weeks I had the statistics whirling around in my head - my baby was going to get cancer if I didn't keep breastfeeding, she would have constant infections...
Let’s hope that one day, the moral principles of the health organisations will value mothers and babies equally and will implement a new approach with mindful, inclusive options and communication. Mother & Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative perhaps?
But the problem with the breastfeeding culture is that it’s gone from “Formula is best. Breastfeeding is gross.” to the other. Now formula-feeding mamas have little to no support, which forces mothers to keep up breastfeeding even when it’s dangerously compromising their mental and physical wellbeing.