I would have loved to be telling you that Oliver’s feeding issues are now resolved. In fact, I was actually putting off writing this until I could. However, I want to tell my story regardless, because I want any other mother struggling with feeding in any way to know that she is not alone. I want to reassure her that feeding does not define her bond with her baby or her worth as a mother.
But the problem with the breastfeeding culture is that it’s gone from “Formula is best. Breastfeeding is gross.” to the other. Now formula-feeding mamas have little to no support, which forces mothers to keep up breastfeeding even when it’s dangerously compromising their mental and physical wellbeing.
When a friend endures a pregnancy with hypermesis, bed rest, and prenatal depression, all you can do is be there for support and pray things improve after the birth. Like the majority of mothers, she had her heart set on breastfeeding, and having worked as a Midwife, she certainly had the knowledge to make it… Continue reading The Battle Of The Breast
I tried to nurse him. My heart wanted to nurse him so bad. It was going to be magical once we figured it out. I was sure of it. I obsessed over it. I lost sleep over it. I cried over it. I bled, actually bled over it. Then I tried exclusively pumping.
Postnatal Depression (PND) (also known as Postpartum Depression) is an illness. The Royal College of Psychiatry (RCPsych) states the following: Postnatal Depression is a depressive illness which affects between 10 to 15 in every 100 women having a baby. The symptoms are similar to those in depression at other times. These include low mood and… Continue reading Breastfeeding Grief; Our BetterHelp Resource
At 10 weeks, she started to refuse breastfeeding (by screaming as long and as hard as she could) in favour of the formula top ups I was told she had to have. I cried on her head because I felt like I was not good enough.
Breastfeeding grief is very real. It appears that there are lots of women out there who have developed post-natal depression as a direct result from their struggle/inability to breastfeed.