I would have loved to be telling you that Oliver’s feeding issues are now resolved. In fact, I was actually putting off writing this until I could. However, I want to tell my story regardless, because I want any other mother struggling with feeding in any way to know that she is not alone. I want to reassure her that feeding does not define her bond with her baby or her worth as a mother.
Let’s hope that one day, the moral principles of the health organisations will value mothers and babies equally and will implement a new approach with mindful, inclusive options and communication. Mother & Baby Friendly Hospital Initiative perhaps?
But the problem with the breastfeeding culture is that it’s gone from “Formula is best. Breastfeeding is gross.” to the other. Now formula-feeding mamas have little to no support, which forces mothers to keep up breastfeeding even when it’s dangerously compromising their mental and physical wellbeing.
I tried to nurse him. My heart wanted to nurse him so bad. It was going to be magical once we figured it out. I was sure of it. I obsessed over it. I lost sleep over it. I cried over it. I bled, actually bled over it. Then I tried exclusively pumping.
Postnatal Depression (PND) (also known as Postpartum Depression) is an illness. The Royal College of Psychiatry (RCPsych) states the following: Postnatal Depression is a depressive illness which affects between 10 to 15 in every 100 women having a baby. The symptoms are similar to those in depression at other times. These include low mood and… Continue reading Breastfeeding Grief; Our BetterHelp Resource
(originally published on Huffington Post http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/breastfeeding-vouchers-i-vouch-for-feeding-equality_uk_5a314ef0e4b06a512dd69c8b) On Tuesday 12th December, the Victoria Derbyshire programme featured a segment dedicated to discussing the idea of offering new mothers financial incentives for breastfeeding. They wanted the opinions from women who would be directly affected if this scheme was rolled out nationally. Here’s the background: New research from the… Continue reading Breastfeeding Vouchers? I Vouch For Feeding Equality
Are you ok? It's a question we often ask but do we really pay attention to the answer? A mother struggling with feeding will often isolate themselves due to the absurd belief that every mum will be in a 'love bubble'. For some mums, that bubble never formed. Others encounter unexpected issues which suddenly pop… Continue reading Are You Ok?
At 10 weeks, she started to refuse breastfeeding (by screaming as long and as hard as she could) in favour of the formula top ups I was told she had to have. I cried on her head because I felt like I was not good enough.
It appears that during WHO’s review last year, the issue of breastfeeding complications weren’t raised as a ‘priority for discussion’. In fact, WHO officials reported that they have not specifically studied the complications from exclusive breastfeeding and have no studies or grants commissioned to monitor complications of the BFHI
We mommies are sometimes faced with tough decisions for the well being of our children. I know what it's like to make a choice that parts of society could rip you apart for.