As many of our articles and discussions have highlighted, not everyone has the choice of whether they breastfeed their baby; some women make peace with their circumstance, others don’t. There are also women who are able to breastfeed, but end up choosing to bottlefeed for a variety of different reasons. Again, some of these women have an easy transition, others struggle both physically and emotionally.
Today, we are featuring Tori Conway, who originally wrote her post ‘Why I Chose to Breastfeed’ over on her blog Conway Crew of 5.
“Devil’s Dust or Liquid Gold? Breast is best or fed is best? Bottle or boobie? Breast milk or formula?
When I first found out I was pregnant with Declin it seemed like everyone was suddenly interested in my boobs and if I was going to use them to feed my unborn
And so it began, the internal debate of breast or formula. It took me the whole 9 months and few days postpartum to make my decision that I felt was best for my family. Formula.
I tried breastfeeding in the hospital and was so uncomfortable during the whole process that it made me dread feeding Declin. I was a new mother and I thought I hated feeding and bonding with my child. All the research I had done leading up to giving birth had told me that mothers who breastfed had a better bond with their babies and it was such an amazing experience. Yet when I was breastfeeding all I could think of is when it would be over. I was so stressed out and miserable. My husband FINALLY told me just to ask the nurse for some bottles and be done with breastfeeding.
Not gonna lie, I felt so horrible about feeding him that first bottle. But then I realized I hadn’t spent the whole time feeding him wanting it to be over. I was actually bonding with my new baby!
Once we got home I really wanted to try breastfeeding again but decided I would try pumping so Declin would atleast be given breast milk even if it wasn’t straight from the tap. That lasted about a day. I realized while taking my pump out of the bag that I was dreading feeding him again and that wasn’t what felt right to me, so I packed my pump away in the closet, made him a bottle and haven’t looked back since!
It seems like society has become so concerned with decisions we make as mothers and we are expected to do what it thinks is normal. To one side normal is breastfeeding and to the other side formula is considered the norm. Wanna know what I think should be considered normal? Happy babies with full bellies, no matter how they were fed.
My husband and I have both witnessed the disgusted looks we get from some people when pulling out the bottle and that forbidden powder, but if I were to try breastfeeding in public there would be nasty looks and rude comments as well. So what are we supposed to do?
Just because breastfeeding wasn’t for me doesn’t mean I think everyone should use formula. DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOUR FAMILY!!
So, to wrap up my little rant for the day…
To the breastfeeding mom, whip ’em out and feed your baby! To the formula moms, mix the shit out of that formula and feed your baby! To society, leave us the hell ALONE and STOP making moms feel bad about every decision we make for our families!!
P.S. To all the moms out there making other moms feel bad because they didn’t choose what you think is best, JUST STOP! We are all in this together!
This piece of writing is a wonderful support for all mamas no matter how they nourish their babies. Supporting the sisterhood at its finest and we love that. Yes, we are a network for bottlefeeding parents but we openly praise all methods of feeding and ultimately just want parents to feel comfortable and supported in their feeding journey.
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